Reflecting on the importance of self talk

 The Power of Self-Talk: Nurturing Wellness

Lately, I’ve found myself reflecting on some of my habits, perhaps thanks to my regular counselling sessions paying off, or maybe it's something else entirely! Regardless, I’ve been mulling over a crucial aspect of our wellness journey: self-talk. The way we communicate with ourselves can shape our motivations, actions, and overall well-being.

Let’s be honest—motivation is fickle. It can soar high one day, only to plummet the next. How do we keep going when that initial spark starts to fade? The answer lies in consistency and the simple act of showing up, even when we feel less than inspired. 

Reflecting on my own habits, I realise that I once had a tendency to engage in harsh self-talk. I believed that being hard on myself would push me to change; I thought if I achieved "X" or completed "Y", I would finally feel confident, strong, and motivated. Unfortunately, this approach backfired. Instead of propelling me forward, it trapped me in a negative feedback loop, dampening my efforts and reducing motivation in the longer run.

It wasn’t until I embraced self-compassion that I began to see a shift. Nurturing my ambitions with kindness rather than criticism allowed me to show up for myself, even on the tough days. I learned the importance of rest and recovery, and how essential these practices are for my physical and mental health. This small change in mindset opened the door to a more balanced self-care routine and gradually dismantled the all-or-nothing mindset that had once defined me.

The research supports this, too. Studies show that self-compassion can greatly enhance our ability to manage anxiety and build resilience during stressful times. When challenges arise, a self-compassionate approach fosters a more adaptable and healthy response. It’s also a powerful tool to quiet that inner critic that often whispers to us.

I firmly believe that self-care should be woven into the fabric of our daily lives. It doesn’t need to be extravagant or time-consuming. Simple acts of self-care—like enjoying a mindful cup of tea, taking a walk in fresh air, journaling, or engaging in your favourite workout—can help bring you back to yourself. These moments create space away from the tasks of the day and the to-do lists for self-awareness and compassion, changing how we feel in our bodies and in the world around us.

How we talk to ourselves matters. We spend more time with ourselves than with anyone else, so why not choose kindness? By shifting our internal dialogue, we can build a healthier relationship with ourselves that nurtures our motivations and well-being.

I hope there has been something of use for you in my experience!

Mind Yourselves,

Rachel

(If you find this interesting, check out Kristen Neff’s Ted Talk on Self Compassion-The Space Between Self Esteem and Self Compassion.)